HOW TO BOOST YOUR SELF ESTEEM

Well, first of all we should clarify.  Self-esteem is not binary.  It's not something you have or don't have.  It's different for each person in different ways.  As you can see from my picture, I am not the most attractive specimen to have ever graced the turf of the earth.  I am overweight, I have male pattern baldness, I wear glasses.  I do have pretty good teeth and a wonderful left ear but, all in all, I know that physical attractiveness is not my strongest suit.

When I put myself out there, though, I don't really focus on that.  I focus on the other things.  I'm funny, smart, entertaining, affable, loyal, curious, and dynamic.  I choose to focus on those things and then - magically - that's what the people around me seem to focus on as well.  I feel good about myself and people can feel that, too. 

Think of it this way, have you ever been around a girl that you wouldn't normally find attractive, but she's just so unbelievably cool that you can't get enough of her?  Be that way for other people.

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• Look, guys like me and you don't have the distinct advantage of being able to impress people by the wonderment of our mere presence.  It is what it is, right?  But I'm nearly certain that you've got a host of other good qualities that you need to focus on and reflect outward.  Stop thinking about the canker sore when you got that whole beautiful mouth. Click here

And stop trying to meet women at bars.  A loud dark place isn't the best venue to allow someone to see your other intangible qualities.  Those will shine through in conversation.  Go to meetup.com and join a group or a class.  You need a change of venue so someone can take the time to see how great you really are.