How to develop habit of reading

The important of reading can never be over-emphasized. However, reading sometimes tends to be boring, but by reading everyday and by choosing the right book that interests you... you will develop the habit. The key to making reading a habit is selecting the books that appeals to you. Select books that makes you curious, that fascinate you and appeal to your personality, is the only reason you will continue reading and not putting the book down.

               DEVELOPING THE HABIT

Once you have the book, plan it through the end. Decide how many pages you are going to read in a day. Set a minimum limit like five or ten pages. If the book is good, you will definitely be reading more and before you know it, you will be making reading your hobby.

According to psychology, for a period of 21 consecutive days, if you repeat doing something on a regular basis it will become your habit. So, for you to develop the habit of reading try reading consecutively for 21 days following the rules below:

Rule 1: 10 minutes of reading everyday for the next 7 days

You have to be super committed for these ten minutes of reading everyday rule. You will start liking reading daily and onward you will be more to read, and that will increase your reading habit.

Rule 2: 20 minutes reading for the next 7 days

I know you will think it is very simple but it might be difficult for you because you will think this can be done very fast and read more than 20 minutes. For you to cultivate the habit you have to be discipline and not fail the rule.

Rule 3: 30 minutes for the next 7 days

Now that you have entered into the last moment of the 21 days and you are on the edge, either you will leave or you will choose not to give up. Continue and read daily for the next 7days for 30 minutes. However, developing reading habit needs consistency, sincerity and even self-discipline.

HABIT OF POSITIVE THINKING

Positive thinking is a habit that attracts more success. In order to install positive thinking, be sure to eliminate negative thinking. Positive thinking is being more focused positively on every situation, even when a thing does not work out. Acknowledge those things that doesn't work out and then, apply positive thinking by looking for positive in the situation. It also requires that you maintain positive attitude and that positive attitude must be in line with success and display the attitude in your every day conversation. Do not wait until things go wrong before you apply positive thinking, because it will not work and you will end up saying, “it doesn't work”. Positive thinking works only when you create the habits.

•             Why you should a positive thinker

Positive thinking has a number of benefits. First, when you decide to become a positive thinking, you can make the so-called “law of attraction”. The main principle of law of attraction is “like attract like”. If you make positive thinking a habitual way of life, imagine how things you will attract into your life. Positive thinking will make you to start to discover more of positive things in people and ignore their defaults, then; you will start to create more meaningful friends and great relationships

The main cause of stress is worry and negative thoughts. If you think about it further, you will understand that stress never solves problems, and it can only leave you helpless. With positive thinking, you can overcome stress easily. When you start to increase the quality of good and positive thoughts, stress will gradually leave your life. Negative thinking can blind you and positive thinking and attitude can turn all your problems to opportunities, finally, if you turn your life to positive, you will start to see positive in everything and your life will change.

How I ride off myself of low self-esteem!

I’d say I have fought against a low self-esteem my entire life. My birth father left my mother and me when I was 6 months old and I never saw nor heard from him again. My mother remarried my adopted father who loved me and I loved him. We still do. Nevertheless, he suffered from self-esteem issues too, and he took it out on my Mom, my sister and me. We were all called "stupid", "dump" "idiots" for most of my adolescent years. As a big kid, I endured many days on the playground by being called, "fat G". Odds are you have had similar unfortunate experiences. Our brains record it all and our self-esteem suffers because of it. However, you MUST overcome these cut downs and develop a positive self-esteem and self-image or success will always elude you. Positive self-esteem is what lifts us up after a defeat. It is the confidence we rely upon to keep on keeping' on. Unfortunately, many people never really master building or rebuilding their self-esteem. 

 Here are some tips I have used that will help you get yours built back up.

Ø  Use the negative experiences you have faced as fuel to rebuild your self-esteem. Deep down, those negative experiences can drive you to success if you use them properly. Drop the blame, and remember the times when you were beat down as powerful. Prove your doubters wrong; do not allow them to be proven right. 

Ø   When you are a master of something, it produces confidence. The key is to master something, anything. Learn to hit a golf ball 400 yards. Learn to play Billy Joel songs on the piano. Get in tiptop shape via working out. Become a top-notch cold caller in your sales career. Anything that proves that you took the time to focus on it, skill up, and therefore master it. 

Ø  Do more of what you fear most... LOTS MORE. Repetition is the mother of all skill and the more reps you can take the more you bury the fear and move closer to mastery the better. The key is MASSIVE AMOUNTS OF REPS. Once or twice is not enough. You need to take lots of swings at bat. If you are terrified of speaking, do more speaking. If you can't make a cold call, do more cold calls. Think of this like my friend Grant Car done suggests in his book THE 10X RULE. Do everything with a factor of 10X to it.

Ø  Put yourself in locations and situations for your mastery to shine. If you have mastered hitting a golf ball 400 years, then sign up for the company or industry golf tournament. You know that when you arrive on the first tee box, you will hit the ball farther than anyone, and others will be amazed.

Therefore, your mastery will put you in a class to yourself, and people will want to be around you and invite you to be on their team. When you start a new job on the sales floor, be the person who can bang out 100 cold calls without blinking an eye. This will separate you on day one from the competition, and you will be looked at as a master. Sit at the piano when you are having drinks with clients and start playing Piano Man. Your clients will be impressed, and your self-esteem issue will go out the window. Invite your new date to the gym with you and let them see how many pull ups you can do and they too will be impressed. Your mastery must be used as constant fuel for you to continue to build or rebuild your self-esteem. Getting great at something gives you the confidence to get great at other things.

Learning love to yourself is a key ingredient for happiness also loving yourself is the greatest step to change your life forever. We are in the midst of enormous individual and global change I believe that all of us who’re living at this time choose to be here to these changes, to bring about the changes, and to transform the world from the way of life to a more loving and peaceful existence.

“The reward for conformity is that likes you but yourself.”

-Rita Mae Brown

The first step you are to take is to start writing down all the things you like about yourself. Next step is to let go of the thing you don’t like about yourself. As you do this move on to writing a list of those things, you truly love about yourself.

Stop comparing yourself to others. Of course, we know that there will always be someone better than us in everything we do or achieve, however other people’s success are usually thrown on our face. Furthermore, you should realize that their life isn’t all that that sails.

Try to know yourself sometimes, spend time with yourself, and notice who you are and why you are unique. Once you learn how to love yourself when you are all alone. You will never be in a bad company. As the saying goes, “you can’t love someone you don’t know, that should as well resonate with you.

When I face death, I realize that I actually cared if I live or died, I had to look at the person I was. I realize that I would have either to love him or change him so I could love him. Over the years, I made enough change that I could accept the person I was and love him, despite all the wrong that were retain

I always focus on the things I love to do. If I master one thing in life, I take it as better than learning about a number of things.

“To be beautiful means to be yourself, you don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to be accepted by yourself.”

THICH NHAT HANH

The most important decision of yourself, the one that will affect every other decision you make, is the commitment to love and accept yourself. However, when you are greatly committed to loving yourself, it will indirectly affect the quality of your relationships, your work, your faith, and future. 

HOW TO MAKE YOURSELF FIRST (2)

Your feelings are just indicators—of how you’re responding to changes and situations. However, you don’t feel a situation—you feel your thoughts about that situation. If you have labeled a feeling, thought has already entered the picture right?

You might as envy, jealousy, lust whatever—proceed to judge it negatively, you might then try to change it or become helpless since you already felt it and are therefore evil. That is like hating a thermometer for showing that you have fever.

However, feeling lust happens and a reactive thought pops up in your mind just like that, much uninvited. That could be a result of many things including childhood conditioning, current stress, circumstance, mood, environment and million things outside of your control or powers.

 As the aphorism goes, “your problem is you’re…too busy holding onto yourself unworthiness.”

The power that created this universe has often been referred to as love. GOD IS LOVE, we have often heard the statement: love makes the world go round. It’s all true. Is the binding agent that holds the universe together? For me I think self love this way, “if I don’t love myself, why should anyone else”, the symbol of love in all the earth, is there for me and you and we’ re the ones to practice that. How do we start? We start by loving ourselves first. Nevertheless, you deserve your own love because you are living your own life. No one else is going to give you the love you deserve and thus, it is best to gift yourself that.

Loving yourself is a very important phase in growing up and maturing because it is when you realize that you are worth living. That you’re worth it as a human being—because you’re able to love yourself. Furthermore, taking the step to decide that you indeed truly love yourself, it takes whole lot of courage, confidence and understanding. Nevertheless, it’s the best decision.

Love is a deep appreciation.  When we talk about loving ourselves, I feel a deep appreciation for whom we truly are. We accept all the different parts of ourselves—our little peculiarities, and all the wonderful qualities, too. We accept the whole package of unconditional love. In order for you to love yourself, it’s good to always let-go of all your past negative views. When we let go of all our negative views it frees us.  Because not letting go filters us. Since we are too prone to negative thoughts, feelings and sometimes aspirations—it is good to let go of it to enhance our self-love.